Life is a journey

Knowing a person is never easy. It depends on how much you want to find out and how much that person is willing to divulge and reveal about themselves. Sometimes it also depends on the interests level. The more interested you are, the more innate energy you will have to peel open the layers of mysteries.

After you peel open few layers, some may feel motivated to find out more. Some may be appalled at what they have found out and progress decline. While peeling, it may be essential for the “peeler” to be mentally prepared for whatever is installed ahead. Nevertheless we all understand that no happen how much you prepare yourself, the unforeseen will still happen and we have to be prepared for crisis or damage management. The outcome may be good or bad, it really depends on how the both parties discuss and reconcile the new discoveries.

Lucky ones may just find your way to the core without many stoppages. Of course, some will say they are not lucky, its just their effort paying off. On the other hand, the not so lucky ones will experience the dark side of the “onion” where maybe even the onion do not know that they are showing the dark side of themselves. Guess its just not meant for that peeler to continue the journey of discovery.

Hence, we can see there is no hard and fast rule that guarantees the smooth pathway to the core of the onion. It takes a lot of unique interaction and friction and de-conflicting to reach the end of the road of final discovery. Nevertheless I guess what is most important here is really the journey to the core of the onion. The amount of effort that you actually put in really marks how memorable this whole journey of discovery will be. Couple with the intent for both parties to enjoy their core together and to be able to laugh and enjoy the remaining years will be excellent.

Watched Step Up today, thought is not a bad show for the following reasons: the unknown leads are good looking! :P. The dances are cool! The story permeates some good lessons for learning or realization! To quote a conversation between two of the boys “We have tried our best” “Have we really tried our best?” “Ya we have not” “We could be better, I want to strive to be better” In the movie, these bunch of lackluster boys juz bump around without much purpose in life and absolutely do not have a sense of responsibility over everything they did. And the male lead was caught for some offences and had to serve community service at this dance school where he met the female lead. He helped her to rehearse for her showcase performance and in the process fell in love. The learning lessons that was implicitly disclosed (as some felt that the meanings are not expressed that strongly hence the meaning was lost) hovered around the need to be responsible for your own life and if you are really serious about what you are doing then you gotta show it in action because the words have lost its meaning when it failed to match your subsequent actions. When your past showed that you are not a serious guy and you made a lot of mistakes, even your sorry do not mean anything cos you dun understand the seriousness of your behaviours and its consequences. Explicit actions are required for the teacher to see that he really mean what he said and he understand the true meaning of consequences. On the same note, I think its impt for a person to be clear with what is right and wrong in terms of actions and behaviours and what is open for individual perception or opinion. For e.g. this male lead do not understand or dun bother abt the consequences of his actions. It is clear what he did was wrong with regards to those delinquent behaviours he exhibited. It is clear that he do not have a sense of responsibility when he first reached the school from the way he responded and behaved. Nevertheless he did changed for the better with the female leads presence and subtle suggestions.

These triggered a thought from me, if in real life, your good friend is a gold digger (e.g. a secretary that make coffee on the bosses lap) or a PRO( work in nightclub and service customers). I think it is clear that all these are undesirable behaviours when we look at the moral and value system and is detrimental to own body and future since it leaves a mark in your life. Plse let me know if anyone think otherwise. Hence, it is clear that this friend will need some sound advice i.e. highlight the consequences and reactions that their behaviours will bring about. Remind them that this is not exactly the best option that is available only. Is it clear that such behaviours are not really about personal opinions and perspective but is really undesirable if given a choice? Plse enlighten anyone. Lets not look at the nitty gritty about why this person engages in such behaviours. By virtue that this person carried out such behaviour, isn’t there an inherent problem?

Love like you nvr love before..

In life, each day, we brush our shoulders with all kinds of pple. Some are meant to left an imprint in your life but some are juz like the gust of wind that pass by and some are here to be by your side for good. When it comes to apportioning the amount of love and care you have to pple that deserve your attention, it requires alot of deliberation and conscious effort when we understand that love and care are in fact finite product. Each day, we also encounter setbacks and disappointments that will pose blows to your otherwise caring nature. And if close ones do not understand this, the delivery of love and care to them will tend to be more restrained and withdraw as a matter of natural instinct or reflex behaviour.

Having said that love and care are finite product, they could also be re-generated from actions of similar nature coming from another close one. Similar to the concept of goodness and goodness coming together breeds more goodness. Its a self fulfilling cycle where what you believe will come true as long as you perform what you advocate with pple of similar nature. The converse is very true too.

Excessive care and love may also blur your vision in the sense you lose track of what is really important to you in the first place. These could be a precarious situation because you will start to justify your behaviour with your self proclaimed love, care and righteous. However, your behaviours could really be stemming from roots of possessiveness, jealousy and immature thought processes.

Then what really is care and love? Guess its really up to individual definition and personal mastery of this matter. Nevertheless a bottomline i guess is applicable to most is that do not apply your own standard on other pple. Your definition and expectation of showering of care and love will certainly be different from other pple. What is more impt may be to understand how the other person express their care and love for their love ones and if they express it on you..you are the fortunate one..